Solutions for the unsettling feeling of the unknown
It is no secret that I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer at 31 years of age, and having a family history of breast and ovarian cancer and no associated environmental risk factors, I was send out for genetic testing. After screening 29 genes (including BRCA1 and BRCA2) that increase the risk for ovarian cancer, for my disappointment so far we still haven’t found the “culprit”. Thus the genetic counsellor decided to do another test called a karyotype. Briefly, this test detects large deletions or duplications in our DNA. So I was very excited when I received a text asking if the geneticist could call me to discuss the results. I was sure they must had found something. I was also afraid, because the result might mean more surgeries (such as a mastectomy to prevent the risk of breast cancer). To my disappointment (but also relief), the result was negative again.
If, like me, you are a cancer patient, you probably have realised by now the constant waiting of the unknown: biopsies, imaging and blood tests, and all you wish for is that time goes fast and that doctor appointment arrives sooner than later so you can know your fate. For cancer survivors, the unsettling feeling might be worse, as all we wish is for the cancer never to come back. Unfortunately, the reality is that nobody controls their future, and we need to learn to live the present moment and let go of the future until it arrives.
My 3 tips for you today are:
Let go of what you cannot control: Unfortunately stressing out doesn’t change our medical results. The stress could, however, give you a stomach ulcer, shoulder pain, headaches and weight gain. When you are worrying, do things that you enjoy and will help you relax. Spend time with your family and friends, go for a walk, breath some fresh air! Watch a movie or a TV series if you don’t feel like doing much. Write a letter to someone who means the world to you. Cook a nice meal, something fresh and delicious!
Enjoy today: worrying about the future will most likely not change it. Instead enjoy today with those who truly matter for you. Time does not come back, and I hope you don’t need to learn this the hard way. Every day is a beautiful day, an incredible opportunity to be happy, to be a better person. Every day counts. That’s the biggest lesson I have taken from being diagnosed with cancer.
Celebrate little accomplishments: in other words, be grateful for what you have! Even if you are being treated for cancer, be grateful you have the chance of being treated (which means there is HOPE). Remember there is always someone in a worse condition than us. Celebrate the end of each cycle of chemo, every step in the direction of a new life. Celebrate the support you receive from your loved ones and your medical team. Celebrate hope. And be thankful for being alive today.
Enjoy your Sunday! What an amazing day!
Fran xo